Is it possible to be genuine and professional?

Going off my usual topic, I want to talk about some soft skills. Specifically, can someone be genuine or “real” while still being considered professional?

I bring up this topic because I’m at an impasse. I’m convinced that I should be completely honest with both my words and my actions. It doesn’t seem right to me to “fake it ’till I make it” or smile even when I’m not happy. I don’t find it to be beneficial to “let things roll off my back”. If something’s really important, I want to actually understand and truly believe in it’s importance, so then I won’t have to fake it. I feel that I should be heard and something should be done about things that make me unhappy so that I have a real reason to smile. I’d rather work on problematic situations instead of ignoring them.

However, these are all the answers that I seem to keep getting from professionals and bosses over the years. Also through the years, I keep getting backlash about wanting to be genuine. Wanting to work on problems and come to better solutions. Wanting to be truly happy and smile. It seems awfully weird to me that so many professionals see these things as unproductive and much less beneficial than just keeping your mouth shut except to pull off a fake smile.

Maybe I’m not understanding their point of view. Here’s where I hope you readers come in. Please leave a comment below or tweet me your input on this.


3 thoughts on “Is it possible to be genuine and professional?

  1. Frank Picetti says:

    The issue is not that of fake or genuine, it’s really a culture. Some feel that ignoring the signs of a problem, or a full out issue is easier that addressing it head on so they smile. Others seem to look at the new mantra of “what’s in it for me” so they do nothing. Both of these vantage points are bad for business and generally friendships, they both lend themselves to the ideal that meritocracy is just fine. What they each fail to understand that doing the right thing all of the time is easier and promotes itself faster than the thought of it’s not my problem. Morale is something that you can’t buy, nor force and obviously you can’t fake as you mentioned. It comes with respect of your leaders and it demonstrates that even at the highest level, everyone is walking in the same direction. This is the only way things will happen for the better without working on it. It come so easy that most “Bosses” can’t see how great it is. They always seem to push to get one more widget out of the team instead of acknowledging the success for what it is.

    Good luck on your issues, you will find it’s easier once you fine your path.

  2. rapbit12 says:

    Unfortunately I’ve “gone with the flow” as you described for several years because I thought that was the way to get ahead professionally. Maybe it worked to get me where I am today, maybe it didn’t. Would I change the way I molded myself to fit in and get ahead? Absolutely. It flattened me spiritually and only recently have I shut out that part of my life out and have started to try to climb back up the ladder with personal spiritual growth. I can tell you from my experience climbing back out is like pushing a camel through a keyhole. Don’t sell yourself out. Your a husband, a father, and a Christian. You’re already a success. Keep your family close and the Lord closer. Everything else is details. Don’t forget that.

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